Deary Jody

My sex life is so dull. My husband and I have been married for 21 years. We love each other so much. But this has become quite monotone. And due to that, also very infrequent. I want to enjoy it more. Would videos or bedroom toys help? Where can we get things like that discreetly? Or is this kind of thing just natural, or maybe one of us needs additional help due to hormones? I just don't know who to turn to? We are both in our 50's now. Is it possible there's just no more room for this kind of passion in our lives, or can a little effort make a difference?

Marie

Dear Marie

The sensation I get is that you are both very capable and willing to have a better sex life, but maybe just a little bored. Your suggestion of bedroom toys and videos might be a great step toward helping. Even just shopping together for sex toys, role playing outfits etc. together can help open some lines of communication and indicate new or hidden interests. There are some excellent stores online if you prefer. Try www.xvibes.com, they have a good selection and very good photos and descriptions.

Jody